Thursday 31 January 2008

主啊,救我脱离负面情绪的捆绑


我们总觉得,活在焦虑、忧郁、惧怕、绝望是一生中在所难免的。我们总是会想:"我的个性就是这样。"可是对所有相信又顺服神的人来说,不受负面情绪捆绑是可以做到的。只要我们求告神,将没有益处的情绪从我们身上脱掉。当我们遇上困难,感到孤独、被弃的时候,事实上,我们并不孤独,也没有被抛弃,因为神一直与我们同在,他要帮助我们。在困难的时刻,我们不需要受负面情绪的操控。透过祷告及明白神对困境所阐述的真理,我们就有能力抵挡那些情绪。

以下7种好方法可以帮助我们脱离负面情绪的影响 :

一、拒绝焦虑不安 : "我心里多忧多疑,你安慰我,就使我欢乐。"(诗 94:19) 神要我们一无挂虑,只要凡事借着祷告祈求就对了。

二、拒绝为怒气所控制 : "你不要心里急躁恼怒,因为恼怒存在愚昧人的怀中。"(传 7:9)求神帮助我们不受怒气捆绑,好使我们能永远享有他为我们预备的一切。

三、拒绝不满 : "我无论在什么景况都可以知足,这是我已经学会了。我知道怎样处卑贱,也知道怎样处丰富;或饱足,或饥饿;或有余,或缺乏;随事随在,我都得了秘诀。我靠着那加给我力量的,凡事都能做。"(腓比4:11-13) 在任何光景中,要找到知足、安息、平安,和喜乐是可能的。只要告诉神那是我们的目标,并且我们也需要他的帮助。

四、拒绝嫉妒 : "在何处有嫉妒、纷争,就在何处有扰乱和各样的坏事。惟独从上头来的智慧,先是清洁,后是和平,温良柔顺,满有怜悯,多结善果,没有偏见,没有假冒。"(雅各书3:16-17) 我们要求神时时向我们彰显他的爱。要记得,"爱是恒久忍耐,又有恩慈;爱是不嫉妒。"(林前 13:4)

五、拒绝忧郁 : "你们一切作孽的人,离开我吧!因为耶和华听了我哀哭的声音。耶和华听了我的恳求,耶和华必收纳我的祷告。"(诗篇6:8-9)神要我们向他哭喊,这样,他才能将我们从忧郁中拉拔出来。神不要我们活在那些不好的感觉里;他要我们心里充满主的喜乐,也要帮助我们将一切会使心发沉的灵赶逐出去。

六、拒绝苦毒 : "要谨慎,恐怕有人失了神的恩;恐怕有毒根生出来扰乱你们,因此叫众人沾染污秽。"(来 12:15)要求神帮助我们脱离苦毒的捆绑,也要求他赐给我们充满感恩、赞美、敬拜的灵。凡心里不属他的,都要求他除去。

七、拒绝绝望 : "乖僻人的路上有荆棘和网罗;保守自己生命的,必要远离。"(箴 22:5)心中没有盼望,灵魂也就如同被判了死刑。因此,我们要拒绝与绝望同出同人。不管情况有多糟糕,靠着神,我们永远都有盼望。求神为我们的将来赐下盼望,也帮助我们用感恩的心渡过每一天。

每个人都有可能受到负面情绪的侵袭,因此,不需要为那些情绪感到难过。负面的情绪代表怀疑。然而,我们也不可以放弃而让那些情绪控制了我们, 我们一定要完全信靠神, 坚决抵抗,绝不能让丑陋的负面情绪损毁了神为我们预备的荣美。让我们彼此互相勉励并在神的国度里继续增长吧!

Wednesday 30 January 2008

He Knows My Name (Part 2)

今天中午, 我接到了从家里打来的一通电话, 告诉了我一个不好的消息. 我当时非常的难过及有些自责. 我问了上帝好多的为什么??? 结果还是没有答案. 心里非常沉重也不知要如何祷告, 只是心里不断的求神帮助我. 感谢神, 我无意中听到了这首诗歌.. 看到里面的歌词, 竟然让我流起眼泪来, 不是因为这首诗歌很悲惨, 而是这首诗歌表达了上帝所要向我说的每一句话, 句句都是安慰的话语. 诗歌提醒了我, 他就是我的创造主, 他是无所不知, 无所不在的主, 他更清楚我们每一个人的心思意念. 虽然无法真正的祷告, 但是我们的上帝就是那么的真实, 他知道我们所需的一切, 并接着你无法想象的方式来回应我们的祷告.

我在此要鼓励大家, 若是你处在不知所错的处境时, 别忘了有一位最知心的朋友(耶稣基督)正等着你来诉苦并向他说话. 他愿意聆听我们的每一个人的心声, 只要你愿意打开你的心房. 阿们!

He Knows My Name (Part 1)


I have a maker
He formed my heart
Before even time began
My life was in his hand

Chorus
He knows my name
He knows my every thought
He sees each tear that falls
And hears me when I call

I have a Father
He calls me his own
He'll never leave me
No matter where I go

The Gate of Heaven

Friday 25 January 2008

未到过年不算新年啊, 老兄!

不知道你同不同意, 我身边许多华人朋友都有着同一种观念, 那就是未到华人新年就还不算是新的一年. 许多事非等到华人新年不可, 特别是一些新计划啦, 实行啦, 改革啦, 除旧及迎新啊等等.... 当然包括了我们给自己的新计划咯!! 你有没有常听人说 "过了年才来打算吧!", 或是 "过了年我们才谈可以吗?"

当然, 这些都不是新发现了, 我还发现到, 有许多华人到了年尾12月(December)时, 他可却当做是真正的年尾, 那才"劲"哪! 什么那么"劲"呢? 一般上, 12月到华人新年往往有最少一个月, 甚至一个半月的”空档”. 那么我想不通, 到底这一个半月里, 算为年尾, 还是年头呢? 有时, 我自己也会被旁边的人影响到我把持不定了.

最近我在想, 可能是我们常在年尾时为着过去一年里的计划里失败, 我们暗地里灰心了, 然后我们就把这段”空白期”当作”休息期” 或 “过渡期”吧? 人总不能做到常处在100%充电状态吧?

但感谢主, 祂并没有让我们独自灰心.祂明白我们的心意, 祂说 :

“耶和华如此说, 你们不要记念从前的事,也不要思想古时的事.
看哪, 我要做一件新事, 如今要发现, 你们岂不知道吗? 我必在旷野开道路, 在沙漠开江河.”以赛亚 43:18~19

喂! 朋友,过年咯! 电充好了吧? 从今年起, 不让自己的”空”常常空白了, 不要再暗地里灰心了. 让我们为主快快起来, 与祂一起做新事, 是我们从未能领悟过, 从未做过的主的大事!

新年蒙恩!!

:-)

set our minds on higher things

gong xi fa cai!! chinese new year is just around the corner. me joining the crowd going to shop for baju at sunway pyramid last nite. as i'll be celebrating cny at sitiawan, i'll just go for something casual like tees n shorts and a dress to go to church on first day of cny. at the end of my shopping trip i manage to get a blouse for myself, a short for joel n a shirt for my dad. not very satisfied coz most of the baju i tried makes me "pui", "fat", gemuk.... (sensitive word). dun even like to pronouce the word.
as by now u probably know i am someone very conscious about weight (though i luv.... n enjoy..... food a lot). back to the shopping story..... i became moody (due to the 'pui" thingy) even with the companies of my encouraging hubby (he is my so call ... my fashion consultant) not forgetting ever so happy n active joel.
this is not healthy. i know. but sometimes it gets out of hand. we can go astray from GOD's purposes in us. worries, anxieties, fears or even "fat" (to me) will affect our minds and actions. thank GOD for his faithfulness. HE knows when his children is out of the way. HE will bring us back to the rite path. like for me this morning: i decided to overcome my weakness. spoke to a sister(also having the similar experience-"pui" issue) through phone 2 hours ago n both felt we have to focus on GOD.

current situation:
mood : good
weight : same like last nite at sunway pyramid

difference is i am setting my mind on higher things. i really need GOD's help to learn this kung fu.......

Monday 21 January 2008

上帝真奇妙


从我决定要再去聚会的那一刻开始,我的祷告就是恳求神用他的方法来到感动我,让我能够再次被感动,再次奔向他的怀抱当中。当我想着神会用他的方式来到感动我的时候,我就完全把之前自己期待神感动我的方法抛诸脑后。一早,我就起身了,我带着的一种想法就是,上帝今天要跟我讲话,上帝今天是有东西要跟我讲的。聚会是美英牧师讲道,她讲的道一句一句的停在我的耳里,很真实的就是在对我说。一切一切真的很奇妙,这场道好像是为我而讲的一样,不敢想象他的真实。
最奇妙的一点就是,当我不期待神用我想的方法来到感动我的时候,他却用了我的方法。呼召时的诗歌更是让我感动,他知道我的祷告,他知道我内心的感动,他知道我想要的是什么!一首《我需要有你在我生命中》就已经可以让我很感动了,加上他的话,每一句都在对我说,每一句都在回应我这么久以来心中的挣扎呐喊。最后呼召时,我犹豫挣扎的时候,还真的是我身边的孝玲姐妹鼓励我不要再等了!这一切一切其实都是在我脑海中我想要神这样的为我做的。我不曾说出口,但他却明白了!这一切一切都是我所期待的,我期待神与我说话,我期待着一个我需要回应的呼召,我期待着当我犹豫的时候,有人来到鼓励我回应呼召。这几天我灵修时所读到的经文,所看到的,所了解的,完完全全真真实实的被表达出来了,而且全部都串在一起。上帝真的很奇妙,在我们软弱的时候,他显出他的刚强。原来在我做错决定的一整个星期里,神依然是与我同在,他每一天都在对我说话,每一天都在鼓励我,他的手每一天都在托着我!

Saturday 19 January 2008

我需要有你在我生命当中,好让你得国度能够降临



好久的一段时间没有听这两首歌了。今天当我还是一个人坐在Starbucks享受着我的Black Tea Latte时,我听到了这两首歌,我很感动,眼泪都在眼眶中打滚了。这两首歌再次地提醒我,选择走这条的道路,是真的不简单,因为我们的心时常反反覆覆,但是我心里却永远相信他是我的主,无论在什么时刻,他都会为我开道路。我们一生忙忙碌碌到底为了什么,为了钱,为了让生活过得好一些吗,难道上帝所赐的恩典不过我们用吗?

在事奉的道路上,我们都会有软弱的时候,我们会有无力走下去的时候,但是神却说:你可以到我这里来,我必使你得安息。他甚至说他会使我们如鹰展翅上腾。这这样的情况当中,求神来到坚固我们的信心,加添我们的力量,让我们可以继续走下去,成为他喜悦的器皿。

Friday 18 January 2008

The Bridge

Awesome God


I like this song very much....
我很喜欢这首歌,
Our God is an awesome God
He reigns from Heaven above
With wisdom power and love
Our God is an awesome God!
最近虽然过着一个潦倒的生活,
但是在这段期间却是我经历神最深的时间,
每一天固定的一段时间与他沟通是我最期待的!
每一天关于他的事情,我都写不完!
感谢神,他的应许永不落空,他不曾离开我!

Thursday 17 January 2008

如何帮助伤痛的人


正在处理着一位医生的讲座。我听了好几遍,现在总算能够一边听,一边把他所讲的内容写成文字。他的讲题是:如何帮助伤痛的人。
当我听着写着的时候,他所讲的让我惊醒。很多时候我们会很怕来到安慰一个人因为我们不知道如何地来到安慰他。有时候,我们过于急着想要帮助他,就说出了一些不该说的话,例如:“比你差的还要多呢!”。这类话听了下去,心里是非常的不好受的。你怎么晓得他的那种的损失,那种伤痛呢?对他来说是世界上最大的损失,最严重的伤痛。有时候我们想要鼓励他,让他再次地站起来,我们就说:“你要刚强起来,不要让魔鬼留地步。”这样的话是很好听,但是要在合适的时间。就好像他昨天才刚刚经过了很大的创伤,今天你就逼着他坚强的做人,如果说他不能够坚强的话,那就代表她比不上其他人吗,这样他的心里就会再一次受到打击。
很多时候,我们帮助悲伤哀痛的人,我们需要做的就是陪着他坐,陪着他站,陪着她在一起,就是这么的简单,不需要什么特别的技巧,也不需要太多的话。就好像圣经中约伯的故事。当他遇到灾害的时候,他的3个朋友纷纷从远处赶来为他悲伤,来安慰他。他们所可以做到的就是七天七夜的与约伯坐在一起,一句话也没有说。
在这当中,我们应该好好的帮助伤痛的人紧紧抓住神的安慰,神的应许。因为就算多虔诚的信徒,就算是信心本来是坚固的人,在蒙受伤痛之后,在哀伤的时间,都很难在那个时刻体会到他之前念过,听过的神的话。我们要帮助他,让他知道神的安慰是实在的,神的应许是一定会实现的,神不会丢弃我们。因为圣经里面给我们的应许说,压伤的芦苇,他不折断;快要熄灭的灯火,他不吹灭。
突然间想起一位好朋友,当人家伤心难过的时候,他会陪在那人的身边,陪他坐,陪他站,陪他走街,给他鼓励,帮助他抓紧神的话,甚至是每一天为他祷告,他做到了他可以做的。但是,最近他却遭受到了很大的伤害,不可否认的是我们没有人能够了解他的哀痛,他的打击。我们很关心他,急着要他的心情恢复过来,急着要他站起来,但是我们急躁的关心却让他感到压力,感到烦闷! 请仔细的想一下,你在伤痛的时候你最想人家如何对待你呢?那你就如何对待你周围受伤的人吧!

lifehouse-everything skit

1 Corinthians 10:13
There hath no temptation taken you but such as man can bear: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation make also the way of escape, that ye may be able to endure it.


哥林多前书10:13
你们所遇见的试探、无非是人所能受的、 神是信实的、必不叫你们受试探过于所能受的.在受试探的时候、总要给你们开一条出路、叫你们能忍受得住。

Tuesday 15 January 2008

我们一岁了! (生日歌)

我们一岁了!

在一年前的一月份, 这个不见经传的Blog在网络的大同世界里冒了出来. 说来惭愧, 当时背着的只有一点儿的理想和抱负, 并没有加上更多的祷告和交托. 但心里面, 却也相信能凭着众多弟兄姐妹对主的爱, 把导人向永生的福音本意, 靠着blog里的文字, 音乐和短片扩散开去.

在这里想要感谢我们许多的bloggers, 特别是慧婷Eunice. 是你们所有人让我们的blog能安然成长到一岁, 在半年内已有近3,000 留览人次. 大概平均每天都有近20~30人在看. 也谢谢你们鼓励的commend :- )

因为你我都相信一个人的能力有限, 同心合力才能为主的福音做更大的事! 因为这福音本是神的大能 ,要救一切相信的人 (罗1:16)

谢谢你! 生日快乐 !

Wednesday 9 January 2008

郊游去

嘿!,让我们一起郊游去!

日期:19th Jan 2008
时间:5:00pm-7:00pm
地点:Metropolitan Park Kepong
活动:放风筝、漫步、跑步、坐脚踏车、Lepakking等等。

有意者,请4:30pm在教会大门前会合。

Friday 4 January 2008

Coffee

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, go together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee. When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups... And then you began eyeing each other's cups.

Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us.

" God brews the coffee, not the cups.......... Enjoy your coffee! "The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything."

Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God !!

Wednesday 2 January 2008

异乡的故事


We are living in a country, which is famous of ethnic diversity. “Malaysia, Truly Asia”. We communicate well with each other; we sharing the same food; we grow up in the same neighborhood, and more. Moreover, we have good relationship in church if we are Christian. However, have you think of if you are living in a different country, where you meet people from different countries, and you will still have good relationship or good communication with them. Nevertheless, in God’s Kingdom we are one family. No matter Italian and Malaysian or Cheese and Belacan, we are all one family.

The past few days, I was facing a personal problem that I could not settle it by myself. I thank God that He gives me a group of friend, who care about me, support me, and love me very much. (They are Indonesian, Philippine, and Singaporean.) They prayed for me, hugged me, and laughed with me. Moreover, a mum of my student (we go to the same church) hugged me so much.

Besides then my friends’ helps, the most important thing is when I was facing this problem; God used His words to encourage me. “Be strong and bold; have no fear or dread of them, because it is the LORD your God who goes with you; he will not fail you or forsake you.--Deuteronomy 31:6" God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you."-- Hebrews 13:5. These words encourage me to make a right decision. Although the decision that I have to make is going against my will, and it seems like is unfair to me, by the word of God I dare to make this decision. God will strengthen and bold me. I should have no fear or dread and believe that God will not fail me and forsake me. Second, “If we walk in the light as [God] is in the light, we have fellowship with one another,… 1 John 1:7” When we have fellowship with God and other Christians, no matter how hard our path of life is, it is going to be easy. Because of this word, I dare to take my first step to walk the path that I know it is going to be hard. I strongly believe when I am walking at this path, God and friends will walk with me. When I fall God and friends will give me a hand to pull me up. When I have no strength, God and friends will give me ‘Popeye’s Spinach’.

We are blessed as God’s children. No matter what kind of problems we are facing, or what kind of decisions we making, remember to put God as the center. Although things might seem like going against our will for now, one day we will know the reasons.

Love you’ll
Ai-chin 爱晶